Old Blog - Love Is

August 5, 2008 8:33 p.m.

Love is…..

For the past two days I’ve been trying to make sense of this chaos that is in my head and in my life right now. I’ve been asking God to help me to understand the concepts of love and forgiveness in relationship to administering it to others. Sometimes we are quick to ask for both of them, but when it is time to extend the same to others, we struggle with it. I guess its human nature. It’s so ironic how we want others to be perfect but we know darn well that there isn’t a cell in our body that is. We set high expectation in relationships for others when we know we aren’t able to meet a tenth of what we are asking for!!! Isn’t it funny how I can look at you and point out all of your faults and imperfections but I can’t see anything wrong with me when it is some of the same crap? People…. and ladies, we are QUICK to do that- to each other and especially to our men.

We know we live in a world with double standards and we constantly fight to break those standards and to make things right, but will they ever be right? Heck naw, but it is our duty as human to strive to live to first and foremost treat everyone right DESPITE the way they treat you. We’ve got to put an end to the Fred Sanford’s way of thinking, “Do unto others BEFORE they do unto you.” I do believe that if we take the time to stop judging each other and begin to love others the way that we want to be love, then and only then will things change. It all begins with YOU. You make the change and as the atmosphere around you changes, so will those who you associate with.

Sometimes in our lives we have to “prune” people and things that are around us. I’m finding out that the pruning HURTS, REAL BAD sometimes. There are some who we want to hold on to because we feel that it will get better but we know that deep down, it won’t and then you’ll find yourself slipping into depression and everything else. You’ll find yourself feeling blue alllllll of the time. Cut it loose and allow God to heal you and move you to your next level. What is the use of being in relationships, friendship or intimate wise, if you aren’t going to grown from the experience? Don’t dwell on the negative things that happen; it’ll make you bitter and sour- but dwell on the good things and take the negative things, examine them or analyze them and THEN turn then into a POSIVITE.

I want to share with you something that I’ve read in a daily mediation that I get through my email.

The theme for the past few issues has been on judging others
using mercy, compassion, love. Let us always keep in mind
that God will also judge us. Remember, too, that God sees
the hidden motives of our heart in all of our actions,
and not just the outward actions themselves, when He
judges us. I thank the Lord for His mercy and grace.
Help me, Lord, to show that mercy and grace to others.

God Bless You!

Annie

Here is a bit of wisdom that she dropped on us as well. I don’t know who Teresa is, but it has strength in it.

--TODAY'S BIT OF WISDOM/REFLECTION:

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Teresa

Even though we try to fake and shake each other, God knows and He is the final judge. So let’s love each other as God loves us. Let us forgive each other as God forgives us. Let us show the compassion and mercy as God shows us. I often think of I Corinthians 13 and what love is : “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not arrogant; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things. Love never fails!!!” 4-8a.

Wow! As I look back, I’ve been able to do some of these things and now my expectation is to do it all whether it is with my family, my friends, who ever I chose to be in a relationship with, my co-workers, my students, my classmates, my church folks, people who I meet on a regular basis and most of all, myself; we often fail to love ourselves and those we can’t love others.

Let me say this, IF I have failed to show you love in anyway, please forgive me and allow me to do so from this point on. I want to leave you with the words to this song, (You know I love my music), Love by Texas own, Kirk Franklin.

Patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love (repeat 4 times)
Verse 1 Love a word that comes and goes
but few people really know what it means to really love somebody
love though the tears may fade away I’m so glad your love will stay
'cause I love you and you show me Jesus what it really means to love

Patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love (repeat twice)

Bridge The nights that I cry you love me
when I should have died you love me
I’ll never know why you love me
its a mystery to me now that I can finally see Jesus
When all was gone you love me
You gave me a song that you love me
now I can go on 'cause you love me
its a mystery to me now that I can finally see Jesus
What it really means what it really means what it really means
To love .............................................................
Patient, patient kind
That's love To love...........................
Patient ,patient kind That's love

Nuf’ said- love you all and I mean it from the depths of my heart.
Be blessed!